It’s been several months since I last posted. A lot has changed for both Mitch and I. Our focus, specifically, has drastically changed. The things we wanted so desperately at the beginning of the year have faded and we have new wants and desires. It’s kinda funny how quickly God can change your perspective and vision.
The change in focus or vision for us is that we are no longer so set on having a baby right now. Now, don’t take this as us not wanting children. That’s not true at all. If we were to get pregnant right now that would be amazing, but it’s no longer a be all, end all in our lives. We have begun to realize that God’s plan is so much bigger. I know I’ve said that for a very long time, but I’m just now starting to see and believe it. I would love nothing more than to have a child and be a stay-at-home mom, eventually. Right now though, our lives have taken a different path, a different journey, a different vision.
Our new vision is to be debt free and to start building wealth. This vision comes from a stark realization of how much debt we had and how we aren’t doing nearly as well as we thought. We bring in more than enough money per month, with both of us working, that we should be able to do and give and enjoy so much more than we do. The reason we can’t do those things is because we are being weighed down by our debt. While sitting in the sound booth, running the Financial Peace University videos for Sunday school, we realized that we needed to do something about our financial well-being. We were not honoring God with our money and that had to change. It took us some time and some hard work, but we are now following the Dave Ramsey baby step plan and are digging our way out of the debt. So far, we have paid off a credit card and a line of credit. Mitch is working crazy amounts of overtime to get us to debt free as quickly as possible. I’m doing everything I can to make it easier at home for Mitch and also working 2 jobs. With the pace we have set, we can be debt free by December 2014. This also means that beginning in 2015, we can start saving money and moving on in ways I could never imagine now.
So, what does this mean for our infertility journey? Well, our focus has changed. It has changed to something we can work on now. It means that when we are debt free, we can save for an adoption or infertility treatments. It means I can be a stay-at-home mom without the constant money stresses related to credit card bills and debts. It means we can save for a safe car of our choice that we pay cash for that we can tote kids around in. It means we can save for a house and take out the smallest mortgage possible, if any at all. It means we can pursue any option available to start a family and not feel guilty that we can’t afford it or afford the things we want our children to have. It means we can build up wealth and give and live like no one else. What can we do without payments? Well, anything we want.
Yes, we are sacrificing right now. Mitch is sacrificing free time to work. I’m sacrificing having help around the house. We are both sacrificing starting a family (unless God surprises us). But, in the end it will be worth it. In the end, we will be in a place financially that will be peaceful.
My blog posts over the next year and a half will be more about our journey to financial freedom than about infertility, but that doesn’t mean we’ve given up the dream. We’ve just paused it while we work toward a better future for us and for our future children.